Don’t Pile Stress On

by | May 9, 2016 | Uncategorised

Change your attitude but don’t pile it on…

The last ‘food for thought’ got such a strong response that I’ve decided to stick with the theme of stress management for a couple of weeks. Firstly, it is important to re-emphasise that stress is simply our inability to adapt to or manage our environment. This doesn’t mean we are weak, it just means it is critical to keep learning, keep adapting and to become more resilient. Secondly, just because we have realised that stress can be our friend (see last week’s Food For Thought if you need a reminder) and changed our attitude towards it, it does not mean that we must pile stress on. What it means is that when you are experiencing a common stress response, you can choose to perceive it as a good thing or a bad thing and in that choice, lays your power and your health. But, it is still wise to take Key Steps as much as possible to…

Minimise your stressors

  1. Set yourself the goal of managing your emotions and choose happiness every day. I am not suggesting that you suppress your worries and fears but I am suggesting that you manage them differently. There are many ways to achieve this goal and many proven psychological effects that can help – or harm – your stress, productivity and happiness levels (I’ll keep sharing more throughout this year). Today, I want you to realise that it can be as simple as choosing to see the good things in your life, in others and in yourself. You could achieve this by keeping a gratitude list; just write down three new things you are grateful for every day (do it now!) and you will teach your brain to scan the world looking for the positive instead of the negative. Another valuable strategy is to…
  2. BEWARE of “Confirmation bias’, i.e. what you see is what you get. It’s been proven that we notice and remember things that confirm our beliefs and discard those that don’t. Keeping this in mind, imagine what happens when you argue with a difficult co-worker, negotiate with a tough customer or complain about an unfair manager. Exactly!… If you already see them as “difficult”, “tough” or “unfair”, you’ll continue to do so, even in the face of contrary evidence. This contrary evidence could be the key to shift the relationship or reach a win-win outcome in a negotiation. Basically, it could be the key to reducing your stress and managing your emotions and those of others… this contrary evidence could help you view the person or situation in a different way and in turn minimise stress. 

To understand your unique stress response, learn coping mechanisms that really work and manage your time more effectively to bring balance back, contact Tiffany for more information and book one of our public workshops listed below. Keeping you taking Key Steps to…

“be the difference that makes the difference




NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free bi-weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’