If you have attended one of my workshops and been on the receiving end of feedback, you will know that I have developed a way of highlighting mistakes in the classroom without offending anyone. In fact, what happens is quite the opposite – most people actually become more willing to try new things and risk making mistakes because they know it will create a valuable opportunity to learn. Please don’t try this at home, yet 😉 Wait until you have mastered the art of giving feedback that is, as it’s taken me many years of facilitation to master the art of giving feedback. I’d recommend that you start by practising on yourself first and take Key Steps to use your inner mentor to give yourself constructive feedback and…


‘be the difference that makes the difference.’

How do you reframe mistakes as miracles?

  1. Realise that there’s no such things as failure, only feedback. When I analysed why my feedback strategy works so well for me, I realised that it’s because I really believe that there is no such thing as failure… there is only feedback and lessons… and I really mean it when I say to people that we are going to “Harness the miracle of the mistake”. I constantly reinforce the message that your very best teacher is not me but actually your last mistake. Once you can deeply internalise the fact that the only real mistake you can make in life is not learning from your mistakes, you will naturally become more able to…

  2. Admit your mistakes and learn from them using your inner mentor. Strong people make as many mistakes as ‘weak’ people. The difference is that strong people admit their mistakes, laugh at them and learn from them. They are not afraid to be vulnerable – or maybe they were but they did it anyway and realised that this is how they actually became strong. For example, they can turn having a car accident into realising that they need to drive more carefully or be more alert or ensure they are not on their cell phone while driving. If they mess-up on a big project, they will apologise, diagnose where they went wrong and begin again more intelligently – this is the work of the inner mentor. They realise that if they allow their inner critic, rather than their inner mentor, to speak, they might become demotivated, lose confidence in themselves and make even more mistakes. So, to be strong and successful, admit your mistakes, get the lesson, recognise that you cannot change the past but you can begin again more intelligently. Don’t beat yourself up, just move forward with your lesson and take Key Steps to…
‘be the difference that makes the difference.’


NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides

About Dr Sharon King Gabrielides

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to have achieved the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’