What is getting in your way of success?

by | Apr 15, 2014 | Emotional Intelligence, Relationships (Self and Others)

Last week we paused together and reflected on our resolutions. We took Key Steps to realise the value of turning new year’s resolutions into manageable goals and living in the now by taking one day at a time. This week I’d like you to look at what obstacles often get in the way of success so you can take Key Steps to…

Clear the pathway to success and reach your goals

1.STOP waiting for the ‘right’ moment. How many times have you said, “I’ll start on Monday,” or “I’m just going to wait until I have enough money saved up,” or “I need to research more,” or “I’ll start when I have less on my plate”? You’ve probably lost count. Stop waiting, start creating… NOW! As the Chinese proverb goes, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” Any action is better than no action.

I am not suggesting that there isn’t wisdom in building up resources before starting a business or conducting sufficient research before drawing conclusions. What I am suggesting though, is that you need to draw a line and make sure you don’t postpone indefinitely because there is no such thing as the absolutely ‘right’ moment.

2.STOP trying to be perfect. Perfectionism is not a good thing, far from it. It is debilitating, energy sapping and a real relationship killer. While excellence is a standard you can achieve, nothing will ever be perfect… perfection is an illusion. And because it can’t be reached we can often waste precious time and energy chasing an illusion. Remind yourself that a second best plan in action is better than the perfect plan still stuck on the drawing board because it is not perfect enough yet. It probably never will be!

3.STOP trying to be super human. It is okay to ask for help. In fact, it is wise. All great leaders will tell you that it takes a team to do exceptional things. No man need – or should – go it alone. Accepting support is in important part of being an emotionally intelligent leader. Of course, this involves surrounding yourself with people who are going in the same direction you want to go in. Often the quality of your life and the degree of your success is directly influenced the people you choose to surround yourself with. Up your EQ today, surround yourself with exceptional people who will both challenge and support you, be prepared to ask for help and take Key Steps to…

“be the difference that makes the difference




NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free bi-weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’