The A is for ‘Attitude’, what is the B?

by | May 20, 2013 | Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Leadership

Last week we started exploring the ABC’s to a successful life. The ‘A’ represented our ‘Attitude’. What have you noticed about your inner voice? Have you made friends with it and tuned out negative self-talk? How much do you influence your attitude by what you say to yourself? If I hear you answering, “Greatly”, you would be correct. Your attitude shapes the world you live in because when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. What attitude are you bringing to your day… your week… your month… your life? Choose your attitude NOW and then take the next Key Step with me to examine your…

B for ‘Beliefs’

Your Key Steps Coaching for the week ahead:

1. What is a belief? A belief is simply a thought you have said “yes” to enough times. It becomes ingrained in such a way that you treat it as if it is a fact and allow it to run your life. Beliefs come from culture, upbringing, education, TV – in fact, there is very little in the external world that doesn’t have the power to shape what we believe, if we allow it to. When was the last time you thought about what you believe, where it came from and whether it still serves you or holds you back? When was the last time you updated your beliefs and cleared out those that don’t support you? I am not talking religious beliefs here (although they are worth examining too); I am talking about all beliefs… Things like:

• You need to work hard to make a living? Really? According to who? I’m practicing working SMARTER now and it’s a much more empowering belief to have.
• Big boys don’t cry? Is that so? I know plenty of real men who cry unashamedly.
• Women don’t get paid as much as men? I beg to differ. I know many women who earn more than men while doing a similar job. I’m one of them!
• I’m not a public speaker. Believe it or not, that used to be my belief and now I earn a great living speaking in public every day and – what’s more – I love it.

2. What beliefs hold you back? Maybe 10 years ago, you were new to your job and, through lack of confidence and experience, you created a belief that you had little value to add at meetings. Now, 10 years later, you habitually keep quiet and don’t share your ideas. Yet, if you were to examine your skills and abilities now, you are an experienced expert in your field who has much value to add. You’ve just been holding onto an old belief that isn’t true anymore. The list of examples I could give you are endless, what you need to do is take stock and examine your beliefs so you can get rid of the ‘rational-lies’ you tell yourself and replace them with new and empowering thoughts – and the more you say “yes” to them, the more they will operate your life in exciting new ways. Brian Tracy puts it well when he says that when you develop yourself to the point where your belief in yourself is so strong that you know that you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, your future will be unlimited. Choose to believe today that you can…

“be the difference that makes the difference




NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free bi-weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’