Seven weeks to better relationships – Part 5 – ‘SH’

by | Oct 28, 2013 | Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Relationships (Self and Others)

We’ve (I include myself because I learn and grow with you every week too!) had quite a few important lessons so far… REAL-NESS, EXCITEMENT, LAUGHTER, APPRECIATION, TRUST,INTIMACY, OPEN COMMUNICATION and NEEDS. So let’s keep going and take the next two Key Steps together to…

Nurture Relation’SH’ips (Part 5)

S – Support: Support each other’s goals and dreams. Be willing to pursue your interests and passions, support your partner in theirs and create new ones together. Two heads really can be better than one so make sure you have common goals. It will be difficult to keep your bond intact if your dreams, views and values don’t intersect and connect in some way.

Can too much of a good thing can be counterproductive? The answer seems to be “yes”. A US study reported (in the journal of Psychological Science) that the more supportive a partner is, the more the other person relies on them – and by doing so often makes less of an effort themselves. So, just be careful to support in a way that still allows your partner to take responsibility for themself and take key steps to reach their goals.

H – Honesty: Don’t lie, hide things or even evade the truth (especially when it comes to your needs or deeply important feelings). The problem will only get bigger. Don’t ignore it, hoping it will go away. Speak up about the awkward stuff as soon as it arises, like money, children, sex, priorities, etc. Naturally, you might want to take a ‘time out’ break to get your emotions in check if you are feeling very angry before openly discussing an issue or you might want to soften the truth if your partner asks, “does my bum look big in this?” :). The earlier you deal with important things, the better. There is much wisdom in the proverb… A stitch in time, save nine. 

Then together you can take Key Steps to…

“be the difference that makes the difference




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Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’