If you could change one thing in your life, what would you change?

by | Nov 21, 2016 | Achieve Goals, Relationships (Self and Others), Stress Management, Time Management

If you could change one thing in your life, what would you change?

Last week, sparked by the election in favour of Trump, I spoke to you about separating what you can change from what you can’t change. How did it go? I hope you’ve approached this week with a more discerning eye and more awareness of the things you have the power to change. Following on from last week, the next question is, “If you could change just one thing, what would you change?” Maybe you’d like to reduce your stress, use your time more effectively, stop smoking, exercise regularly, earn more money, sleep better or spend more quality time with your loved ones? And, if you are honest with yourself, this is probably not the first time you’ve thought about this, is it? So what’s keeping you from making the change?  Have you considered that there’s only ONE thing you really need to do and everything else would fall into place more easily and you’d create the changes you’ve been wanting for so long…

It might sound too simple, but that ONE thing you need to change is… Your thinking!

Now if you believe that your thinking matters, that what you think about you bring about AND you are ready to make changes in your life, then I have good news… On 12 January 2017 we will be supporting you to adopt healthier thought habits, create a powerful vision for 2017 and design the life you deserve – both personally and professionally. No more wishing, we’ll get busy designing and creating goals and action plans for success. Learn more about this workshop and hear what our clients have to say and let’s take Key Steps this week to!

Make the change that matters most!

  1. What are you thinking? Our self-talk is one of the biggest influences (if not THE biggest influence) we will ever have on our lives and every thought that exists in our subconscious got there through a decision to accept that thought. Yet, for most people, our thoughts largely remain unconscious. Quite scary, hey!? We all need to become more conscious of our self-talk so we can at will choose to replace negative beliefs with positive ones. We ALL have the power to choose an identity we love, but we need to do the work. The process of changing our subconscious beliefs requires awareness, diligence, consistency and repetition. Stop at least three times a day (set a reminder on your cell phone if necessary) and listen to what the voice in your head has been saying. Then ask yourself…
  2. Friend or Foe? I will be surprised (and pleased) if your self-talk is always the voice of a friend. After almost two decades of practising mindfulness, I still catch myself in negative patterns at times (or just thinking complete an utter nonsense J). It takes awareness and discipline (and three powerful techniques that I’ll teach you when we work together on Time and Stress Management or Make 2017 Great: Set & Achieve Goals) to change my sometimes berating, criticising voice to that of a supportive and challenging friend (much like a coach). This change will help you develop and get you where you want to go. For example, instead of saying, “that was stupid”; I would say something like, “what have you learnt…?” Work with me and you can turn your voice into that of a coach and take Key Steps to…

 “be the difference that makes the difference




NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free bi-weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’