The miracle of the mistake!
If you have attended one of my workshops and been on the receiving end of my feedback, you will know that I have developed a way of being able to highlight mistakes in the classroom without offending anyone. Quite the contrary in fact, most people become more willing to try new things and risk making mistakes because they know it will create a valuable opportunity to learn. Please don’t try this at home :),until you have mastered the art of giving feedback that is, as it’s taken many years of facilitation to get this strategy ‘right’. I’d recommend that you start by practising on yourself first and take Key Steps to use you inner-mentor to give constructive feedback and…
Harness the miracle of the mistake
1.Realise that there is no such things as failure, only feedback. When I analysed why my feedback in training strategy works so well for me, I realised that it’s because I really believe that there is no such thing as failure… there is only feedback and lessons… and I really mean it when I say to people that we are going to “Harness the miracle of the mistake”. I constantly reinforce the message that your very best teacher is not me but actually your last mistake. Once you can deeply internalise the fact that the only real mistake you can make in life, is not learning from your mistakes you will naturally become more able to…
2.Admit your mistakes. Strong people make as many mistakes as weak people. The difference is that strong people admit their mistakes, laugh at them and learn from them. That is how they’ve actually become strong. For example, they can turn having a car accident into realising that they need to drive more carefully or be more alert or ensure they are not on their cell phone while driving. If they mess-up on a big project, they will apologise, diagnose where they went wrong and begin again more intelligently. They realise that if they allow their inner-critic instead of their inner-mentor to speak, they can become demotivated, lose confidence in themselves and make even more mistakes. So, if you want to be strong and successful, admit your mistakes, get the lesson, recognise that you cannot change the past but you can begin more intelligently right now. Don’t beat yourself up, just move forward with your lesson and…