Do you know the secret to great relationships?

by | Oct 26, 2015 | Uncategorised

Do you know the secret to a great relationship?

Relationships are a critical part of our lives and influence us in so many ways. Positive relationships often contribute to our sense of satisfaction, positive self-regard and contentment. Within positive relationships, giving is a joy and receiving is a privilege. Relationships have the potential to shape and mould us and show up in our lives when we need them to teach us a lesson about ourselves. This applies to relationships in the work place as well. And we can learn from all relationships – both the ones we perceives as ‘good’ and sometimes even more from the ones we perceive as ‘bad’ or unhealthy.

Being in relationship is one of the most challenging things (if not THE most challenging thing) we as human beings choose to do. So let’s explore why we choose these challenging and often frustrating connections and a ‘secret’ to make them great.  Take Key Steps with me to…

Master the Art of Relationships

  1. What is THE point of a relationship? Your relationship is not there to make you happy, although it might. It is not there to satisfy your needs, although it could. It is not there to help you escape loneliness (and should not be an excuse not to be alone). Its purpose is not for you to procreate, although you might. It is certainly not there for you to exploit, by exerting power and control over the other. It is not there because God mandates it. It actually has one purpose and one purpose only. It is simply there as a mirror in which to see yourself clearly. That’s it! Relationships provide us with witnesses to our lives and opportunities to show us parts of our own infinite potential.
  2. What is THE secret to sustaining great relationships? I like the way Al Ritter puts it, he suggests applying the 100/0 principle… You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship and expect nothing (the 0) in return. Soon the other person usually does the same and you end up both giving 100%. Note, that it is important to pick your partner wisely. Life is such a challenging, dangerous, beautiful, rewarding, overwhelming, magical and relatively short process… share it with a mirror who’ll stick by your side through thick and thin and one who is prepared to allow you to be all that you are and learn and grow with you. Then together you can take Key Steps to

“be the difference that makes the difference




NOTE: The information in my blog may be freely shared and re-used in any online or offline publication, provided it is accompanied by the following credit line: This was written by Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, and originally appeared in her free bi-weekly  ‘Key Steps Food for Thought Blog’ available on the Key Steps website.

Dr Sharon King Gabrielides, EQ Expert, Founder and CEO

Sharon is a dynamic facilitator, speaker and executive coach with over 25 years’ experience in leadership development and organisational transformation. Her PhD thesis contributed a framework for holistic and sustainable leadership development that was published by Rutgers University in the USA. She is faculty of numerous business schools and highly sought-after by leading corporates because she works hand-in-hand with them to create sustainable results and long-term success. In 2020, Sharon was inducted into the Educators Hall of Fame, which is a lifetime achievement award, recognising excellence and her contribution to the field.

Sharon is one of only three women in South Africa to hold the title of Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) – the Oscar of the speaking industry. She is also a COMENSA Master Practitioner (CMP), a qualified Modern Classroom Certified Trainer (MCCT™) and an accredited Global Virtual Speaker. Sharon is also a registered Education, Training and Development Practitioner (ETDP), holds an Honours degree in Psychology and practices as an NLP master practitioner.

Most important to Sharon is that she has become known for her genuinely caring manner, practical and transformational approach, and for providing valuable tools and that allow people to take Key Steps to really… ‘be the difference that makes the difference.’