"If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you cannot paint’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced."

Vincent van Gogh

"We are what we think about all day long."

Ralph W Emerson

Silence that inner-critic… I dare you

Many of us were raised to believe that acknowledging our strengths and being proud of our achievements was arrogant and the quickest way to success was to be hard on yourself. Furthermore, we were led to believe that cynicism is synonymous with intelligence; i.e. be a bit skeptical when good things come your way (as they are probably too good to be true) and don’t set your heart on your dreams because they probably won’t happen. Scary, isn’t it? Especially because it translates into… Criticise yourself and don’t be too optimistic about life. It gets even scarier when you look at the research conducted the past 20 years showing that if you want to be successful and happy, the exact opposite is true. So, let’s take Key Steps this week and…

Silence your inner-critic

  1. Being hard on yourself does NOT work. Many believe that being hard on themselves will make them better people. However, research does not support this belief. Self-criticism has been shown to reduce motivation, increase procrastination and increase rumination. There are much better, and scientifically-proven healthier, ways to take an honest look at yourself and learn from your mistakes (we’ll talk more about this next week). Instead of criticising, practise self-compassion; learn how to be your own friendly challenger and best friend. In other words, treat yourself the way you would your best friend.
  2. Stop living in the past and take steps forward. Think of one thing you have done this week that you feel badly about or wish you had done differently. Practise viewing this action from a place of self-compassion and understanding. Stay focused on what you learnt, and come up with a plan of how you can do better next time. Constant criticism of yourself isn’t going to make you better. In fact, it could make you bitter. Tell the negative committee in your head to, “Sit down and shut up”, so that you can access your thinking part of your brain, be more emotionally intelligent and take Key Steps to…

     “be the difference that makes the difference


    To master the art of listening and gain a host of other communication skills that will catapult your success, contact Juanita and BOOK yourself on our upcoming Communicate with Impact workshop on 22 July 2019.

    Date: 22 July 2019 (R3,795.00 per person per day)
    Venue: Focus Rooms, The Core, 1st Floor, Cnr Kikuyu & Leeuwkop Street, Sunninghill, Johannesburg

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