We’ve (I include myself because I learn and grow with you every week too!) had quite a few important lessons so far… REAL-NESS, EXCITEMENT, LAUGHTER, APPRECIATION, TRUST,INTIMACY, OPEN COMMUNICATION and NEEDS. So let’s keep going and take the next two Key Steps together to…

Nurture Relation’SH’ips (Part 5)

S – Support: Support each other’s goals and dreams. Be willing to pursue your interests and passions, support your partner in theirs and create new ones together. Two heads really can be better than one so make sure you have common goals. It will be difficult to keep your bond intact if your dreams, views and values don’t intersect and connect in some way.

Can too much of a good thing can be counterproductive? The answer seems to be “yes”. A US study reported (in the journal of Psychological Science) that the more supportive a partner is, the more the other person relies on them – and by doing so often makes less of an effort themselves. So, just be careful to support in a way that still allows your partner to take responsibility for themself and take key steps to reach their goals.

H – Honesty: Don’t lie, hide things or even evade the truth (especially when it comes to your needs or deeply important feelings). The problem will only get bigger. Don’t ignore it, hoping it will go away. Speak up about the awkward stuff as soon as it arises, like money, children, sex, priorities, etc. Naturally, you might want to take a ‘time out’ break to get your emotions in check if you are feeling very angry before openly discussing an issue or you might want to soften the truth if your partner asks, “does my bum look big in this?” :). The earlier you deal with important things, the better. There is much wisdom in the proverb… A stitch in time, save nine. 

Then together you can take Key Steps to…

“be the difference that makes the difference